Dreams - Practical Meaning
& Waking Life Applications
Not only do dreams offer a private means
to explore inner reality and to gain unique, undeniable, personal
experiences, but there is overwhelming evidence that they can
be used to improve waking life, often immeasurably, supporting
Shakespeare's age-old claim by MacBeth that sleep and dreams "
are chief nourishers in life's feast." Dreams offer opportunities
for fun, adventure, wish fulfillment, creativity, deep personal
insight and healing, and all this at no cost and with no line-ups!
Dream Incubation, Healing & Guidance
As far back as recorded history and probably further, dreams have
been employed for guidance and healing. The dream temples of ancient
Greece are a classic example where the ill would perform a sacred
ritual and sleep in a specialized healing temple. The Greek god
Asklepios would often appear in a visionary dream, perform a symbolic
operation, and the seeker would awaken healed or having received
guidance. Closer to home, many native American tribes such as
the Ojibwa of the Great Lakes, have expanded their use of incubation
beyond healing. Young adults would embark upon a dream or vision
quest into the wilderness as a rite of passage into adulthood
and would fast and pray until the anticipated dream was received.
Blessed by the dream with guidance or revelations about latent
personal talents, the youths would return to the tribe with the
responsibility to apply and share their gifts for the benefit
of the community.
The process of incubation is the basis for all the applications
that follow. Although perhaps a forgotten art in our culture,
it is innate and neither esoteric nor difficult, and often operates
automatically as we fall asleep with a problem in mind. How often
have you heard a friend with a pending decision, problem or question
say, "Let me sleep on it"?
To consciously incubate a dream, simply hold your question or
problem clearly in mind as you prepare for sleep. Then ask (rather
than command) yourself to have and clearly remember
a dream which reveals the answer as either an insight, an
actual experience, or both. In the morning, record any dreams
or thoughts which you have upon waking for later reflection. The
answer may be obvious or may not be immediately apparent, but
trust that the process is working and try to put any insights
you get into practice. This last step often involves drawing upon
courage and self-discipline to face personal fears and/or overcome
present personal limitations, but is important, as explained by
the following analogy: if you ask someone for a gift and they
grant your wish, they won't be overly impressed or nearly as generous
next time if you lose, ignore or forget about it, so try to maintain
a grateful appreciation for having received such guidance and
it will likely promote further insight and future success.
"After learning about dream incubation, I suggested
to myself to have a healing dream since I'd been feeling drained
of energy for some time and had a bad cold coming on, which is
unusual for me. I dreamt that the pores of my legs opened and
ugly leeches oozed out. I awoke feeling much better. I never did
find out exactly what it represented, but it sure worked."
(M.S., Palo Alto, CA)
"I'm a triathlete. After an important, upsetting race
where I biked and ran well below my capability, I decided to incubate
a dream about it. After a week of focusing, I remembered this
dream: 'I'm with my coach discussing how I was so tight and cramped
during the race. He suggests regular sports massages for the racing
season and says he knows a guy who could do it.' When I awoke
and phoned him, he confirmed the dream and connected me with his
massage therapist. A few weeks later I won my first major race,
becoming the New England Long Course Champion. Two weeks after
that, I qualified for the World Championships in Hawaii."
(R.C., Montreal, QC)
"A new relationship came into my life, except that communication
suddenly broke off for a few days, so I asked for guidance from
my dream as to whether this relationship would be healthy for
me. That night, I dreamt I was trying to talk to my new boyfriend
on the phone. The connection kept getting cut off his because
his end of the line was made of many small bits of phone wire
poorly patched together. The dream confirmed my feeling that keeping
good communication with this new partner might prove difficult.
On top of that, he even told me when he finally called a few days
later that he wasn't yet ready to be close to anyone." (S.L.,
Montreal, QC)
Resolving Nightmares, Anxiety Dreams &
Recurring Dreams
Almost everyone has experienced one or more dreams that contain
anxiety or outright fear. These experiences can be quite traumatic
or become recurrent. For some, unpleasant dreams or nightmares
repeat in actual content. For others, the content may change while
the theme remains the same, such as scenes of falling, or of being
pursued or attacked, of being late or unprepared for class, a
presentation or an exam. Some people even dream of being stuck
in slow motion and unable to move, or of being naked in public,
to name a few common themes. Research has shown that most recurring
dreams are described as being unpleasant. Furthermore, many dream
theories converge in their view that this type of experience is
associated with lack of progress by the dreamer to recognize and
solve related conflicts in life.
Fear of nightmares from early in life, or other anxieties or
misguided beliefs about dreams and the unconscious can block dream
recall, but this can usually be overcome by learning about
the useful nature of dreams and by recognizing that many nightmares,
like a bitter but quite necessary medicine, represent opportunities
for healing and insight, and can warn of psychological imbalances
that we need to remedy, or of current behaviors or decisions which
may soon become detrimental unless we change them, as exemplified
in this dream by Stanford University pioneer sleep researcher
Dr. William Dement:
"Some years ago I was a heavy cigarette smoker, up to
two packs a day. Then one night I had an exceptionally vivid and
realistic dream in which I had inoperable cancer of the lung.
I remember as though it were yesterday looking at the ominous
shadow in my chest X-ray and realizing that the entire right lung
was infiltrated. I experienced the incredible anguish of knowing
my life was soon to end, that I would never see my children grow
up, and that none of this would ever have happened if I had quit
cigarettes when I first learned of their carcinogenic potential.
I will never forget the surprise, joy, and exquisite relief of
waking up. I felt I was reborn. Needless to say, the experience
was sufficient to induce the immediate cessation of my cigarette
habit."
Fortunately, there exist treatments
for nightmares that do not involve medication and which have
shown to be remarkably effective. Some of the most effective techniques
presently being used in psychotherapy include voice dialogue work,
dream lucidity, guided imagery, dream
rehearsal.
The lucid
dreaming approach for resolving nightmares is demonstrated the
following typical integration dream:
"After many recurring nightmares where I'm pursued by
some terrifying figure, I learned of lucid dreaming and had the
following dream: I'm in a frantic car chase with the pursuer right
behind me. Swerving into a lot, I bolt out of the car and run
with him hot on my heels. Suddenly, the scene seems familiar and
I realize that I'm dreaming, though the parking lot and trees
still seem more real than ever. Drawing upon every ounce of courage
that I have, I swirl to face my pursuer, repeating to myself that
it's only a dream. Still afraid, I scream at him, "You can't
hurt me!" He stops, looking surprised. For the first time
I see his beautiful, loving eyes. "Hurt You?" he says.
"I don't want to hurt you. I've been running after you all
this time to tell you that I love you!" With that, he holds
out his hands, and as I touch them, he dissolves into me. I awake
filled with energy, feeling great for days. The nightmare never
returned." (M.R.,San Jose,CA)
A Rich Source of Creativity
Dreams have long proven themselves to be storehouses of creativity
and may in fact be the well from which imagination springs. With
dream incubation and the new opportunities presented by lucid
dreaming, artists, musicians, dancers, sculptors, and inventors
are able to dive deep into the source of inspiration and explore
the vast reaches of their own creative potential by meeting face
to face with the unconscious. The increased clarity and directable
nature of the lucid state often enables the dreamer to return
awake laden with creative insights.
A few example dream-inspired works are The Beatles' well-known
hits "Yesterday" and "Let It Be", Samuel Taylor Coleridge's
famous poem "Kubla Khan", Robert Louis Stevenson's "The
Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde". Other artists who
credit dreams as a source of inspiration, include poet-painter
William Blake, painter Paul Klee, and screenwriters Judith Guest
and Ingmar Bergman, to mention but a few. Many composers to have
used dreams for inspiration including Sting, Peter Gabriel, Robert
Palmer, Billy Joel, Mozart, Beethoven, Giuseppi Tartini, Igor
Stravinsky, Sir Arthur Sullivan (of Gilbert and Sullivan), French
composer Vincent D’Indy, African composer Joseph Shabalala (Ladysmith
Black Mambazo founder), opera composer Richard Wagner, and Tuvan
“throat-singers” Huun-Huur-Tu from central Asia, among others.
George Frederic Handel claims to have heard the last movements
of his famous oratorio The Messiah during a dream.
A Valuable Problem-Solving Tool
The tale is now famous of how, after an embarrassing slump, golfer
Jack Nicklaus claims to have solved a problem with his golf swing
within a dream, which subsequently improved his game by ten strokes
-- overnight! There are undoubtedly plenty more undocumented examples
spread over history, but some well-documented ones include the
dream-inspired experiment and resulting discovery of the chemical
mediation of nerve impulses by Otto Leowi, which won him a Nobel
prize, Elias Howe's discovery of the sewing machine, many of Thomas
Edison's inventions and Friedrich Kekulé's discovery of the structure
of the benzene ring from a hypnagogic dream where he saw a snake-like form
swallowing it's tail. Said an excited Kekulé to his colleagues,
"Let us learn to dream!"
Physical & Professional Skill Rehearsal
Young children, especially babies, spend more time in REM
sleep than do adults. In these stages of intense physical
and mental development, some researchers believe we're actually
practicing how to talk, walk and perform other physical and mental
skills while we dream, suggesting that this may be one of the
innate functions of dreaming.
German psychologist and lucid dream researcher
Paul Tholey used dream work in his training of the German Olympic
ski jumping team. He had the skiers learn lucid dreaming so that
they could creatively experiment with new maneuvers, without risk
of injury, and gain confidence in the most believable virtual
environment available -- the world of dreams.
Dreams are also beginning to be used in this regard for improving
business, and professional performance:
"After nursing school, I dreamed how I would manage a
cardiac arrest and most anything stressful in my new career. I
can make myself dream just about anything that I need to 'practice'
before doing it." (C.A., Jacksonville, FL)
A medical student reported this lucid dream: "Before
I went to sleep, I was mulling over the ways in which I could
present my internship experience to my classmates. While dreaming,
and knowing I was dreaming, I wheeled a cart of stuff into the
classroom, set it up, and did a wonderful presentation. I saw
overheads outlining my talk, slides, posters - everything I would
need. When I awoke, it was clear how I should organize and present
the material, so I did, and it went beautifully." (M.K.,
Wildwood Crest, NJ)
Fun, Exploration, Wish Fulfillment, Personal
Growth & Illumination
Dreams provide what star trek fans might call a nightly holodeck
experience or what hi-tech buffs might see as the ultimate virtual
reality, where there is no limit to graphics resolution, computing
power or on-line storage. In dreams and in lucid
dreams especially, where the world avails itself to the desires
of the dreamer, adventure and intrigue are almost guaranteed because
the usual laws of physics and of society no longer apply, and
many of the apparent blocks set by age, sex, race or religion
simply fall away. In dreams we can be the hero of our own adventure,
find romance, fly, travel through "solid" objects, breathe
underwater, and perform feats free from embarrassment, peer pressure,
monetary limits, and even physical handicaps. The boundaries of
imagination are the only limits. One can even follow in the footsteps
of Tibetan monks who master lucid dreaming as a spiritual illumination
stepping stone on the path to enlightenment.
"All my life I've taken wondrous adventures upon the
wings of my imagination while dreaming. I have flown many nights,
talked to bears, dogs, raccoons, and owls; I have swum with dolphins
and whales, breathing underwater as if I had gills" (L.G.
Chico, CA)
"I suddenly realize I'm dreaming from the surprise and
excitement of recognizing that I've become a salmon swimming upstream!
Leaping high into the air, I climb a series of chutes. Then I
flip up onto the shore and the flipping sensation feels so odd
that I soon awaken." (W.D., Palo Alto, CA)
"Falling asleep, I remember wondering what truly 'knowing
myself' would be like. Dreaming, I become aware of this incredible,
indescribably powerful 'Love Light'. The thought comes that there
is no power like it - it's absolutely non-judgmental, and dwarfs
every worry or desire I've ever had. It is peace and simplicity
and well-being. It includes sexuality but encompasses far more.
Basking in what feels like 'an ocean of grace', I soon realize
that I'm not looking at it, but rather that I AM it, recognizing
myself." (C.W., Palo Alto, CA)
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